Tuesday, November 22, 2011

(41) More Lessons From the Penn State & Clergy Sex Abuse Scandals

Assistant Coach Jerry Sandusky walking off the field after a Penn State loss.


       More will come to the light as the investigation of the Penn State mess continues and could exonerate Joe Paterno. Recently,The Penn State Board of Trustees hired Louis Freeh, a former FBI director, federal judge, and prosecutor to lead a nine member committee in the investigation of how the university handled allegations that former assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky sexually assaulted at least eight boys over a period of 15 years.

       
Mike McQueary was accused of “going to his Daddy for help” instead of stopping the crime in progress. McQueary says he did that and did tell the campus police, but there's no record. Similarly, Paterno said that he reported it to the Campus Security Director. If true, that would indicate a cover-up by Campus Security which would open up another can of worms. They do have a vested interest in Penn State. Why did Jerry Sandusky quit in 1999? Was it of his own accord or did Paterno force him to resign because he knew or heard something? Assistants generally serve at the will of the head coach.

       In the following analysis, my intent is not to justify the many mistakes that were made, but to provide some light and promote some understanding of the badly handled situation by leaders who were loyal to their men and over zealous in protecting the reputation of their organizations and should have known better. Without question, the sex abuse crimes against beautiful innocent children, were evil and despicable beyond rationalization or excuses.

        The children suffer lasting psychological scars and they lost trust in people they looked up to as role models. The victims tend to be cynical, suspicious, and even paranoid throughout life. Wikipedia adds guilt and self-blame, flashbacks, nightmares, insomnia, fear of things associated with the abuse (including objects, smells, places, doctor's visits, etc.), self-esteem issues, sexual dysfunction, chronic pain, addiction, self-injury, suicidal ideation, somatic complaints, depression,[16] post-traumatic stress disorder,[17] anxiety,[18] other mental illnesses including borderline personality disorder[19] and dissociative identity disorder,[19] propensity to re-victimization in adulthood,[20] and bulimia[21]”. According to the American Psychological Association (http://www.apa.org/) , victims later exhibit behavior problems ranging from separation anxiety to posttraumatic stress disorder. No wonder that child sex abuse is not only immoral, but criminal.

        Sandusky founded The Second Mile, a nonprofit that he started in 1977 to help at-risk children whom he put at greater risk. He raised millions of dollars and had the backing of prestigious people. He helped many kids, BUT used his position of trust to attract and abuse innocent young boys. Jim Tressel of Ohio State and Joe Paterno were very successful and powerful icons that the whole Country looked up. They had a Mr. Clean image and even gave talks about ethics. All that was shattered with allegations that they covered up corruption. Now Paterno's legacy is tarnished and he cannot leave and fade into the sunset on his own terms. Now he's in Real Clear Sports' Top Ten Tarnished Legacies (http://www.realclearsports.com/lists/top_10_tarnished_legacies). This brings to mind the maxim:”The bigger (higher) they are, the harder they fall”. Before we judge, let's remember:”But for the grace of God go I”. Given the same situation, the same personality and background, any one of us could fall into similar cover-ups and even sexual abuse. No one is above sin.

       Paterno and Penn State officials first learned about Sandusky's crimes in 2002, the same year that the clergy sex abuse scandal first broke in Boston; so they could not learn much from the mistakes of the bishops. They should not have participated in any cover-up, but that's easier said than done. Jim Tressel, Joe Paterno, the Penn State administrators, and the Bishops are all good men with exaggerated loyalty to the people under them and the institutions they represent.  For example, Joe Paterno, unlike most coaches, placed as much emphasis on preparing the members of his team for life and pushed them to graduate while motivating training them to win games and championships. He gave back much if not most of his salary to Penn State and charitable causes.

       The Mentality of 2002. In the case of covering up by bishops and Penn State, let us not forget the mentality of the times. Solve the problem internally. Don't wash your dirty linen in public. Avoid scandal. Keep it in the family. Don't ruin the family name. Keep it quiet. It's really part of our culture.......don't be a tattle tale; don't squeal. You love those who work for you. You don't want to ruin their lives. What would you do, given the mentality of 2002 if you were a Catholic bishop or a Penn State administrator. Almost any organization, as any family, which it is in a way,  would have handled it internally and cover it up so as to avoid a public relations nightmare.  Most people would have told their boss and thought “lt's out of my hands now”.  Fast forward to 2011.......now we know better.

       Or do we know better?  Rightfully so, the Catholic Church scrutinizes and orients all people, lay or religious, who work with kids as in Catechism classes. Today every bishop would immediately suspend the abuser of his priestly duties and report him to the police by law even when in many cases there is little or no evidence.  Now we're at the other extreme.......guilty until proven innocent, A disgruntled person on a vendetta or out for money can destroy a priest's career, simply by making an accusation. The accused priest remains in limbo pending the results of an investigation, which may take years. Child protection is primary while due process and the priest as a possible victim of a false charge are secondary.

       Were Paterno, the administrators, and the bishops aware that they had an obligation to report the crime to the police? They should have sought legal counsel with their organizational lawyers and ignorance of the law is not an excuse. What were Paterno's obligations? He told his boss and it's not clear whether he reported it to the campus police. He like most people probably thought that after telling his boss, it was out of his hands. Sandusky was forbidden from taking kids to use Penn State's athletic facilities. Did Paterno think that Sandusky's crime was a one time event or something that he would have repeated with another kid.   If it is the latter, Paterno clearly should have done something to stop him.......tell Campus Security and off campus police, push that he be banned from the Penn State campus. Better would be to push for a court injunction that would forbid Sandusky from being with kids at all anywhere, but the guy should be prosecuted and put in jail.

       And don't forget.......Tressel lied in his cover-up; Paterno did not. The Grand Jury said he was a cooperative and honest witness. He was not a first-hand witness to the Sandusky incident. He passed on what he heard to his boss and to the head of Campus Police. Any more action on his part would have risked charges of libel by Sandusky if the charges turned out to be false. Paterno has surely earned the benefit of the doubt until the truth of all of this comes out in the investigation. Paterno's press conference was probably cancelled for fear of jeopardizing the trial of Sandusky. The Grand Jury only determines if there is sufficient evidence to warrant a regular trial.

       I hope that some good comes out of this whole evil mess. Perhaps people will now be more understanding of the Catholic Church and the bishops, as wrong as they were in mishandling their messes.  Nevertheless, even considering the mentality of the times, it is inexcusable to continue employing perverts. But the Church has always believed in the possibility of repentance and changing one's life around.

      The Bishops, after giving the accused priests a severe chewing out and sending them away to a retreat house and treatment,  also confided in so called expert psychologists and shrinks who treated the wayward priests and determined that they were ready to go back into active ministry. Few if any knew at the time that pedophilia and sexual addiction, like chronic alcoholism, are never really cured by human means.  Of course, hindsight is 20-20.  The point is to understand the problem, knowing the mentality of the times and learn so that future evil abuses may not occur again. 
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        According to a John Jay College of Law study http://www.usccb.org/nrb/johnjaystudy/incident3.pdf, 80.9% of alleged victims were males and 62.7% of the total were age 13 or over, i.e., adolescents. This shows that most of the guilty priests were not pedophiles but homosexuals. Sandusky was a bonafide pedophile.

       A Hofstra University researcher on the subject, Charol Shakeshaft looked into the problem and noted that "The physical sexual abuse of students in schools is likely more than 100 times the abuse by priests.”  But you can't sue the public schools (www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/08/24/.../main1933687.shtml). She estimated that about 290,000 students were victimized between 1991 and 2000. The John Jay Study concludes that 4 % of all priests serving between 1950 and 2002 have been accused of sexual abuse.
These findings and the Penn State sex abuse scandal show that the problem is not only Catholic priests, but the entire American society. Of course, priests should know better and God will judge them for it.

        Reform. The incidence of clergy sexual abuse is much lower now. Seminaries routinely give applicants rigorous psychological screening and those who have acted out any homosexual tendency are generally eliminated. Seminaries have been reformed with more intense spiritual formation. Episcopal oversight has been been built into the system especially in programs involving youth, and there is a general tightening. Accused priests are not given the benefit of the doubt until clearly shown to be innocent. During the 1960s and 1970s seminaries became very liberal and sin was de-emphasized. As a result, almost all of the clergy abuse occurred before 1985.

        Has clergy sex abuse been eliminated entirely? As long as human beings are weak and sin exists while the evil one lurks, preying upon everyone trying to be faithful to the Lord, particularly priests, there will be temptations and men will fall. Fallen men in a fallen world sin.  Thus it is imperative that vigilance and oversight never be relaxed. Priests must have an intense prayer life throughout their careers.  For example, the required daily prayers and readings of the divine office or breviary are so long and beautiful that I cannot imagine a priest being faithful to it and falling into serious sin. In any event, one incident of clergy abuse is much too much. The entire Church and Society in general must have a vigilant and prayerful attitude: NEVER, NEVER AGAIN anywhere adults work with vulnerable youth!
   
      

Monday, November 21, 2011

(40) Lessons From the Penn State Sex Abuse Scandal

LESSONS FROM THE PENN STATE SEX ABUSE SCANDAL

Head Coach Joe Paterno leads his players at Penn State onto the field.


                     The child sex abuse scandal at Penn State, my brother's alma mater, is sad. The fallout from this public relations nightmare is going to go and on as the outside investigator uncovers more facts. Lawsuits will follow, but they'll probably get little or nothing out of Penn State since one can't sue the state of Pennsylvania for damages. Just as people identify Kent State with the 1970 shootings of students by National Guardsmen, I'm afraid that Penn State might be identified with child sex abuse.

       Penn State had one of the best athletic programs in the Country and never got into trouble. Penn State and Graham Spanier, their long serving president had sterling reputations. Joe Paterno, like Jim Tressel of Ohio State, was a coaching icon, had a Mr. Clean reputation and was thrown off his pedestal. Children were finally believed by the police and Jerry Sandusky, the defensive coordinator and heir apparent to succeed Joe Paterno before quitting in 1999, was accused by a Grand Jury of molesting young boys in Penn State facilities since 2002 and before. That is, the Grand Jury found sufficient evidence to warrant a full blown criminal trial. Penn State administrators are accused of covering up the mess.
Coach Mike McQueary & Head Coach Joe Paterno

       That year Mike McQueary, a graduate assistant coach at the time, witnessed Sandusky molesting a boy in the showers of the Penn State athletic complex and dutifully reported the incident to his boss, Joe Paterno, who in turn reported it to his boss, athletic director, Tim Curley. Vice President Gary Schultz and President Graham Spanier were also informed. Joe Paterno, the winingest coach in football history with 409 wins, is being criticized for not following up by using his great prestige and influence to do more to stop Jerry Sandusky from ever repeating his crime against any child anywhere. The Board of Trustees fired them all.  Very successful careers were shattered and great legacies tarnished.
  
       As with the Catholic Church, decisive action was too late in coming and the damage was done. The Pennsylvania State University will be picking up the pieces for years. The old maxim again proved to be true that “what is done in the dark shall come to the light” as beautifully shown below (http://www.maran-ata.net/exalt-eng/topics_light.htm)

      
       The Moral of the Story.  Don't cover it up. The problem will only get worse. It will force you into one lie after another. Don't simply sweep the dirt under the rug.  Clean it up NOW before the mess gets bigger.
Don't put off confronting corruption. Catch the problem in the bud NOW before the rot festers and it grows into a full blown scandal.......a monster almost incapable of solution that may not only do lasting harm, but destroy the organization or institution along with its leaders. The business scandals, the clergy sex abuse scandals, and now Penn State have clearly shown this. “What is done in the dark shall come to the light. More lessons to be learned are for our next blog. 
 
All Secrets Shall come To Light
There's not one thing done under the sun that, in the most unexpected and precise time,  won't come to light. No matter what its nature might be and how someone try to hide it, it will become public in the moment least expected. God is present everywhere, He is aware of all things and He is righteous. "He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday." Psalm 37:6
God sees every good deed you do without no one knowing about it and all bad things others do, hiding from everyone so they won't be discovered. There are two eyes that don't slumber nor sleep; no matter where you try to hide yourself, God sees you! In the most remote place in the world, in the deepest area of the sea, in the highest spot up in the sky ... There's someone with his eyes over you, to do what is proper in the correct time.
You can try to deceive everyone; you can hide in the most profound cave, but no matter where you might be, the Almighty God will reach you. Later or sooner, in a long or short period of time, EVERYTHING you do, will be of public knowledge. "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap." Galatians 6:7

ISAIAH 5:20
Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil;
who put darkness for light, and light for darkness;
Who put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter! 
 
ISAIAH 29:15
Woe to those who seek deep to hide their counsel
far from the Lord, and their works are in the dark;
They say, "Who sees us?" and, "Who knows us?" 

PSALM 64:5
They encourage themselves in an evil matter; they talk
of slaying snares secretly; they say, "Who will see them?" 

JOHN 3:19-20
And this is the condemnation, that the light
has come into the world, and men loved darkness
rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not
 come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.

EPHESIANS 5:13
But all things that are exposed are made manifest
by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light.

MARK 4:22
For there is nothing hidden which will not be revealed, nor
 has anything been kept secret but that it should come to light.

LUKE 12:2-3
For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed,
nor hidden that will not be known.
Therefore whatever you have spoken in the dark will be
heard in the light, and what you have spoken in the ear
in inner rooms will be proclaimed on the housetops.

GALATIANS 6:7
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for
whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.

JOB 34:21-22
For His eyes are on the ways of man, and He sees all his steps.
There is no darkness nor shadow of death where the workers of
iniquity may hide themselves.

ECCLESIASTES 12:14
For God will bring every work into judgment, including
every secret thing, whether good or evil.

DANIEL 2:22
He reveals deep and secret things; He knows what is in
the darkness, and light dwells with Him.

PROVERBS 28:13
He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever
confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.


 

Sunday, November 20, 2011

(39) A Knight's Prayer to Christ the King and Mary Our Queen Mother


 Although the ceremonial dress of the Knights of Columbus is that of knights of the age that Christopher Columbus lived and centuries before, we look at ourselves as 21st Century knights of Christ the King…….willing to defend the Church against physical, legal, and verbal attack; fight to conserve Christian values in our society; serve God, our parishes, and our communities; protect the Blessed Sacrament and Christ in the tabernacle with our lives. Thus the order is restricted to faithful practicing Catholic men. 
Father Michael McGivney
A painting of our founder, Fr. Michael McGivney (1852-1890)
     with the people he served in the background. 
           In 1881 Fr. Michael McGivney, then a 29 year old holy Catholic priest whose cause for canonization is in process, saw a need for a fraternal society for faithful, practicing Catholic men to give more security for their families.  There were too many poor widows --as a result of industrial accidents-- who had to cope alone with their young children.  His idea was to provide low cost life insurance to protect the families of the knights.  Fr. McGivney's vision also included fraternal fellowship and the spiritual formation of its members while promoting good family life, patriotism, and serving the parish and the community.  He died in 1890.

Since the Masons were so vehemently anti-Catholic at the time, Fr. McGivney most likely hoped that the Knights of Columbus would be a Catholic alternative to Masonry.  In fact the Church today still forbids Catholics to be members under the pain of grave sin that deprives them from the sacraments and being accepted as Knights.  Today, militant masonry has mellowed, but much of it, especially at the higher degrees are against Church teaching as brought out by a 32nd Degree Mason, John Salza in his book, “Masonry Unmasked: An Insider Reveals the Secrets of the Lodge” (http://scripturecatholic.com/MU.pdf).   

See also 
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Opposition_to_Freemasonry_within_Christianity

A bird's eye view of some of the activities of the Knights of Columbus with its emblem.
        Knights of Columbus Life Insurance has financial ratings among the very highest in the industry.  The profits (i.e., surplus) are distributed, not to stockholders, but to its insured and is also used for charities around the world.  For example, the Knights of Columbus are among the leaders in the pro-life movement; many councils make the annual pilgrimage to the March for Life in Washington.  It successfully helped to initiate and lobby for the insertion of "under God" in the Pledge of Allegiance in 1954 and continues to fight secular efforts to remove it in the courts.  Today the Knights of Columbus has grown to more than 14,000 councils and 1.8 million members throughout the United States, Canada, the Philippines, Mexico, Poland, the Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Panama, the Bahamas, the Virgin Islands, Cuba, Guatemala, Guam, Saipan, and among off-duty military.  For more information go to www.kofc.org.

       If you are not a Knight, please talk to a member and look at its websites for more detail at www.kofc.org.  There are many opportunities for great fellowship, a fabulous life insurance program to protect your family, and opportunities to serve the parish and the community.  An active council in which all of its members participate can indeed be a force for good in the parish and the surrounding community.

       Knights of Columbus Life Insurance has financial ratings among the highest in the industry.  The profits are used for charities around the world.  For example, the Knights of Columbus are among the leaders in the pro-life movement.  It successfully helped to initiate and lobby for the insertion of "under God" in the Pledge of Allegiance in 1954 and continues to fight secular efforts to remove it in the courts.  Today the Knights of Columbus has grown to more than 14,000 councils and 1.8 million members throughout the United States, Canada, the Philippines, Mexico, Poland, the Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Panama, the Bahamas, the Virgin Islands, Cuba, Guatemala, Guam, Saipan, & the military.  For more information go to www.kofc.org.

      May the following two prayers help to always keep us strong and active, always faithful to the Church and the mission of the Knights of Columbus as envisioned by our founder, Fr. Michael McGivney.

A KNIGHT’S PRAYER*

-Lord, you are the Christ, Christ the King, King of the Universe.
-We are your humble knights ready to serve at your command.
-Use us according to your will, to serve you and your people well and give you glory. 
-Don’t let us do anything that might dishonor your Holy Name.
-We are always your loyal knights from the vigor of our youth to sickness and old    age…..  when we will unite our crosses with your cross and offer them for your  kingdom on earth.                                                                                
**Help us to be noble and worthy knights in the spirit of the knights of old…..
-To generously do good in serving your Church, the parish, the community, and our country;
-To perseveringly help and promote the cause of the poor, the defenseless, and the unborn;
-To be men of prayer, honor, character, and integrity;
-To boldly but prudently do what is right, morally and ethically, regardless of consequence;
-To act with courtesy, modesty, and humility, but firmness without giving offense;
-To be patient, caring, kind, and gentle men of courage and virtue,
chaste and pure according to our states of life;
-To be devoted and faithful to our families as fathers, husbands, and sons…..conscientious parents, providers, and protectors with St. Joseph as our patron.
-To graciously treat all women with respect, dignity, and honor;
-To do our part to restore our Christian culture to what it once was and to what it should be;
-To be good Catholic leaders and blameless role models for youth to follow;
-To encourage and promote vocations to the religious life;
-To fearlessly defend the Church, the faith, and the truth against attack;
-To appropriately evangelize in little or big ways by prayer, example, word, and deed; 
-To protect our King, ever present in the Eucharist, against defilement with our lives.

**Father, help us to do our part to establish your kingdom
-And further your divine will on earth as it is done in heaven.
-Holy Spirit, guide us in our decisions; tell us what to do, what to say, and what to write.
-Sanctify us, strengthen us, and grant us your gifts, especially fortitude, wisdom, and understanding, for the realization of your divine will.

-Mary, our mother, you are our queen, Queen of Heaven and Earth.
-We are your loyal knights ready to serve at your command.
-Use us according to the will of your Son.
-Nurture our faith and keep us faithful to the Church and its teachings.
-Mother, take us each by the hand and lead us through life to eternity with you and your Son.

-Venerable Father Michael McGivney, intercede that we effectively continue your work  for God and Country
-And recruit new members who will be consistently faithful in following your mission.
-Pray that we always live up to the ideals of the Knights of Columbus which you founded.

* When time at a meeting is short for oral prayer, the second and/or third paragraphs (**) may be omitted.


             A KNIGHT'S PRAYER OF TRUST*
-Lord, you are the Christ; Christ my King.
-I am your knight.
-Please use me according to your will.
-Wherever You send me, I will go.
-Whatever you ask of me, I will do.
-What mission you give me, however small or great, I will embrace.
-And when you take that mission away from me and give me another,
-I will always accept your will with the same zeal and trust
-Even if it is a life of prayer and sacrifice in a sick bed…….as I unite my cross with your Cross by offering up my aches and pains to you as a dynamic prayer for the Church, my family, and the world.

* If you are a Knight and like these two prayers, you might want to consider reciting one or the other at the beginning or end of meetings and ceremonies either regularly or occasionally.  You may also consider giving copies to your members and to newly inducted 1st degree knights.                                
                      
     

Saturday, November 19, 2011

(38) Cheating in School Now; Corruption in Government and Business Later


        We read about criminal corruption in Government and Business.  Brilliant people with the best educations, already successful and making a lot of money, but that's not enough.  They want more......not a big house, but a palace.......a bigger car, a bigger yacht, more power, more prestige, win the election or reelection, no matter how.  Then there's petty corruption.......cheating on taxes, cutting corners with the product or service, misrepresenting the product in marketing, violating the rules.  Then of course, we have petty theft, stealing little things from an employer, shoplifting, lying about eligibility for a government service, lying in filling out an insurance claim, welfare cheats, etc.

People like to rationalize or justify their cheating by convincing themselves that what they are doing is right.......”I'm underpaid; taxes are too high; Everybody cheats on their taxes; The store cheats me with their high prices; They won't miss it”.  Embezzling becomes: “I'm not stealing; I'm just borrowing”.  All the rationalizing in the world won't make what is wrong right.  It's still wrong.

 So much money is spent on checking up and watching people to make sure that they don't cheat and try to beat the system.....more forms, more verifying, more bureaucracy, more cops, etc.  That raises the prices of products and government spending because so many people are not producing, but are paid for being watchdogs.  

 Where does it all start?  Yes, in the family, but also in the schools.  If parents don't do their jobs, then teachers must.  Very worrisome is the amount of cheating that goes on in schools and colleges.......using crib sheets or giving answers to others during exams, copying assignments from another student or copying from a book or web site without giving credit to the true author, not playing by the rules in sports, etc. 

 If young people are accustomed to cheating in little things, isn't it much easier to fall into big temptations and big time corruption later?  On the other hand if students are accustomed to be honest in little things, it is very unlikely that they will fall into big time corruption when they have high positions in Government and Business.  That's why I and many teachers around the world give the student a zero for cheating, taking it very seriously.  The university may even expel him for it.

 Thus it is crucial that the teacher does not tolerate any cheating among the students s/he teaches.  Impress them with their sense of fairness.  Is it fair that the dishonest student makes a higher grade than the honest student.  The grade is a lie, a fraud.  Is it fair that the dishonest student receives the award, scholarship, admission to the University, or job and the honest student does not? 

 Students may work together on assignments, but each should put the work together in his/her own way and make a note on the paper with whom they collaborated.  Students may summarize in their own words parts of books and the internet, but they should give the author credit through a footnote.  If a student copies word for word, quotation marks should be used and a footnote.  Giving the impression that it is one's own idea when it is not is plagiarism. 

 A big stick will go only so far in teaching honesty to students.  Honesty must be part of the kid's character and personality.  After all, character is doing what's right when no one is looking.  Integrity is being true to one's moral principles no matter what, to do what is right regardless of the stakes or consequences are.  Once having taught the  students the value of honesty, the teacher may want to test them with the Honor System by walking out of the classroom and saying: "Now begins the exam of life between you and your creator.  I trust you.  “BETTER TO MAKE AN F WITH HONOR THAN AN A WITH SHAME".  I've had good results.