(303) Michael Gormley to Discuss Men's Role in the Renewal of the Parish at the 2025 Steubenville Diocesan Men's Day of Renewal

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                                                                 Michael Gormley

Before ascending into Heaven, Christ gave a final command to His apostles that made them evangelists for the ages: “Teach ye all nations” (Matthew 28:19).  Our Lord intended that command not only for His apostles, but also for us. 

This command is of special importance today.  The Church is in crisis.  We are losing our youth.  People are drifting away from the Church because they do not know or understand the beauty of the faith and thus it appears to be boring to some.  People are lax with their Sunday obligation.  Secularism is taking over.  There is a shortage of priests.  The pastors can’t do it alone and they need help.  Where do we start?

 With the men of the parish!  Bold witness!  The men must step up big time in big ways or little ways as leaders in their homes, parishes, communities, jobs, and circle of friends.  The question is how to go about it?  Michael Gormley, a most dynamic speaker, will show the men how at our annual Diocesan Men’s Day of Renewal. 

 He will show what the new evangelization is all about and the role the men have in it.  Armed with the Eucharist as a source of strength and spiritual sustenance with a Biblical vision of what a man should be in the first place, the participant will be better prepared to do his part in this all-important mission.  

 The Diocese of Steubenville continues its annual Lenten Men's Day of Renewal on Saturday, March 22 at St. Stephen’s Church, 1036 Belford St. in Caldwell (Ohio) off Exit 25 on I-77, a half hour north of Marietta or a half hour south of I-70.  This Conference will be the fourteenth Men’s Day since 2010.  Doors open for Registration and coffee at 9 am.  The main program will begin with a welcome at 9:45 am, continuing through the Mass at 4 pm to fulfill the Sunday obligation. 

 The theme of the Conference is “The Eucharist and the Biblical Vision of Men”.  The patron of the Conference is St. Joseph, a model of virtue and a true man of God, whose intercession we count upon for its success.

 To complement the Holy Hour, the Penance Service, and Mass presided by Fr. Mark Moore, the Ohio University Newman Center Chaplain, the featured speaker in the morning and afternoon sessions is Michael Gormley, dynamic and on-fire for the Lord.  He specializes in helping parishes intent upon renewal and strengthening the family.

 The goal of the Men's Day of Renewal is the spiritual development of the men of our diocese…..to accept the universal call to holiness, to be more effective Christian leaders and servants of God and His people as well as good husbands and fathers.

The goal includes helping the men to take the right path before having to face the four last things.......Death, Judgment, Heaven or Hell.  Having spiritually strong men of faith and character translates into more solid families, more dynamic parishes, and better communities. This is crucial to the Church and particularly our diocese, now and in the future. It is also critical for nurturing vocations.

Brief Bio. Michael Gormley started out in parish work as a young man with a master’s degree in theology and Christian Ministry from the Franciscan University of Steubenville.  Starting small, he worked for 17 years as a full-time parish staff member and later as a retreat leader and consultant for parishes, dioceses, and Catholic campus ministries. 

He is now giving conferences all over the country and working as a Mission Evangelist for Paradisus Dei, a Catholic Ministry dedicated to marriage and family life.  Let him set you on fire for the Lord!  With God’s help and the approval of their pastors the men can change the world from their parish and their homes, each man doing his part in forming a Catholic culture!

Being married to his college sweetheart and having four children, Michael Gormley can identify with the problems and daily struggles facing the men who will be participating in the Diocesan Men’s Day of Renewal. 

The men are encouraged to bring their sons and friends (boys 18 and under enter free of charge).  It can be a great father and son experience.  A lunch will be provided. 

Registration. Although the men may register at the door, preferable for planning purposes and to minimize waiting time is to register by mail with Brett Martz; 75 Stewart St.; Athens, OH 45701 (bmartz21@gmail.com).  Every parish should have available tri-fold brochures, each containing a registration form.  Registration may be done individually or the parish representative may send them in as a package. 

 Fill out the Registration Form in the brochure available in your parish and send a $25 check (payable to the Diocese of Steubenville to the address indicated.  Click on https://files.ecatholic.com/21165/documents/2025/2/Mens%20Day%20of%20Renewal%20Invite%202025%20FINAL.pdf?t=1740495713000 to access the official brochure on line as it appears on the diocesan web site at www.diosteub.org.  More information may be obtained from the Chairperson of the Steering Committee, Don Coen at 740-264-0155, 740-632-1565, or <cchscrusader63@gmail.com>.  For greater convenience, the men may also register on-line at https://athenscatholic.org/steubenville-mens-day with an additional $3.00 surcharge. 

 Sacrifice. The fact, that travel time may be long and distance may be far for many, gives the conference a pilgrimage flavor.  Lent, of course, is all about sacrifice and spiritual growth.  Since St. Stephen’s Church in Caldwell is near the approximate center of our far flung diocese, the Steering Committee is hopeful that the men of Steubenville in the north and the men of Ironton and Chesapeake in the south will be able to participate.  

 Regardless of distance, this mini-pilgrimage is a Lenten sacrifice of early rising and a long trip with great fellowship in a van or bus as the men pray together, discuss the talks and other events of the Conference, and deepen friendships.  A bag lunch is provided. 

   Equipped with the power of the Holy Spirit and His gifts, the men will be more effective as fathers as well as leaders in the parish, the community, and on the job.  God fearing men and leaders can be pivotal in changing the culture, putting Christ into the marketplace (job), renewing the parish, and building the domestic church at home. 

     It should be a great day of enjoyable fellowship and spiritual invigoration. In each of annual Men’s Conferences since 2010 our men returned reinvigorated, enthusiastic, and spiritually refreshed.  Expect the same this year.  It is awesome to hear the men lift up their voices in song and be moved by the beauty and power of the faith.  But mostly, through God’s grace, we will have more good spiritually strong men for the kingdom of God as well as for the battle against secularism and other evils that plague our society today.

We will have more men who put Christ into their professions. We will have men who will become more knowledgeable in their faith and better prepared for a joyful Easter and an eternal closeness to God.  The Men's Day of Renewal has grown into an annual event in our diocese, thus fulfilling a great need.

      Promotional Help and Parish representatives are urgently needed to mobilize the men; they can inform Don Coen of their availability.  Ads in the program and donations to underwrite the Conference and keep the registration at a low price are greatly appreciated and may be sent to Brett Martz (330-354-8028) at the address above.  Keep posted on resources to promote the Men’s Conference and articles on men’s spirituality at http://diosteubmen.blogspot.com.

 Many if not most men will hardly notice the bulletin announcements, posters, and brochures, although they are indeed important and helpful.  What they can’t miss is the one-on-one personal selling by their peers, i.e., talking it up.  The most effective form of advertising or promotion is word of mouth.  Most effective is the witness of men who have gone to previous Conferences, especially the parish representative that we are asking the pastor to appoint or accept as a volunteer.  

Thus at least one or two men are urgently needed in each parish to assure the success of this event. To ease the burden on our pastors, we are depending upon our men to offer their assistance as parish representatives to mobilize the men with good one on one personal selling, register them, and organize van pools.

Word-of-mouth advertising is essential to maximize the promotion of the Men’s Day of Renewal throughout each parish. We ask participants of past years to tell their friends about this awesome opportunity for spiritual renewal.  If there is no parish representative in your parish, please consider volunteering by informing your pastor and by e-mail “Don Coen - Chair Diocesan Men's Day of Renewal” cchscrusader63@gmail.com.

Also important, women can be most valuable in encouraging their husbands, sons (including teens), fathers, brothers, boyfriends, etc., to attend. This is a very important part of the “New Evangelization.”  The women certainly want their loved ones to be men of God. 

The Crucial Role of the Pastor.  Although he already has more than enough on his plate the way it is, there are many little things he can do.  They include: a prayer for the success of the conference in the Offertory petitions at Sunday and daily Mass; appointing a parish representative for personal selling; a creative bulletin blurb every Sunday; perhaps a brief plug during after Mass announcements, etc. 

If the pastor accompanies the men, he would have an opportunity to know the men better and thus solidify the parish.  Of course, if he has a commitment to say the Vigil Mass in his own parish, he would have to leave early.  The Men’s Day of Renewal needs confessors.

 The local Knights of Columbus council can be most valuable since the spiritual formation of their men is part of their mission.  They are asked to mobilize their men to attend and organize a van pool.  Traveling together can build friendships, solidify the Council, and provide opportunities to tell about the Knights, thus making the Conference a recruiting tool.

      Transportation Needs. A carpool, vanpool, or bus saves on fuel costs and gives an opportunity for fellowship while traveling to and from the event—especially for those traveling greater distances. Please invite other men and assist with the organization of transportation for those attending in your parish.

        Donations Needed. It is very expensive to put on a conference of this magnitude and feature nationally known top speakers. While the Steering Committee does its best to minimize the cost for each participant, we are seeking donations from businesses, parish organizations, the Knights of Columbus, and individuals. Please send donations or ads to Brett Martz as shown above.  Furthermore, we do not charge men who are unable to pay so that no man is excluded.  Boys 18 and under are admitted free of charge.

Ads in the Program Booklet.  Details on placing the ad for a business or community organization, or Knights of Columbus Council are in the Conference Blog or call Brett Martz at 330-354-8028 e-mail bmartz21@gmail.com.

      More information is available from your pastor, from Don Coen above, or Paul Sebastian at (740)578-9249 or paulrsebastian@yahoo.com. The Men's Conference Blog at diosteubmen.blogspot.com has a wealth of sample promotional materials for use at the parish level…….1) Overview, 2) Ad Form, 3) Press Releases, 4) Possible Bulletin Blurbs, 5) Pulpit Announcements, 6) Promotional Ideas, 7) Functions of the Parish Rep, 8) Sign-Up Sheet, 9) Sample Bulletin Insert, and 10) a Possible Talk By One of the Men after Mass.  There are also interesting articles on men’s spirituality, past conference highlights, etc.  After the Conference and throughout the year as time permits, articles will be added to help the men keep in good spiritual shape.  Clergy, Religious, and knowledgeable layman are invited to submit articles.

      Please submit your registration as soon as possible. Registration will be accepted at the door; however, doing so in advance makes our planning more efficient and also helps to minimize waiting at the conference entrance.  

 

BENEFIT SUMMARY OF WHAT THE MEN'S CONFERENCE CAN DO FOR YOU:

  Get you into good spiritual shape.

 Have a great day of enjoyable fellowship and spiritual invigoration with fellow parishioners and participants at the conference, resulting in deeper friendships and parish cohesion.

 Develop ourselves as men of character and spiritual strength as we obtain the graces to cope with problems and conquer problematic issues that trouble our society.

 Be an effective spiritual leader to your family as a better husband and father.

 Prepare our hearts for the great feast of Easter as we become closer to God.

 Become more knowledgeable about our Catholic faith and grow in Christian maturity.

 Become a more effective soldier of Christ, and help strengthen His kingdom on earth.

 

Visit http://diosteubmen.blogspot.com for additional resources to help promote the Men's Day of Renewal.  Other articles that integrate church teaching on a variety of subject may be found at http://paulrsebastianphd.blogspot.com.                                                                              

(302) Living in the Grace and Power of the Holy Spirit

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By Dr. Alan Schreck

Professor of Theology at the Franciscan University of Steubenville

The Papal Altar in St. Peter’s Basilica in Rome under the huge bronze Baroque Baldachin (canopy) sculpted by Gian Lorenzo Bernini with an image of the Holy Spirit symbolized by a dove in the background above.  The Church owes so much to the guidance and protection of the Holy Spirit over two millenniums and despite persecution, heresy, corruption, etc. the gates of hell has not and will not prevail against it.

Editor’s Note: The following is a summary of the morning and afternoon talks of the main speaker at the 2024 Diocese of Steubenville Men’s Day of Renewal in Dr. Schreck'a own words.

Are you thirsty? John 4:7-15; 7:37-39

St. Augustine comments: “ ‘If you knew the gift of God.’ The gift of God is the Holy Spirit. But he is using veiled language as he speaks to the woman and gradually enters into her heart…What could be gentler and kinder than the encouragement he gives?... He was promising the Holy Spirit in satisfying abundance. She did not yet understand.”

My testimony- I was thirsty…and in darkness. Until I came to know what St. Paul taught: “No one can say ‘Jesus is Lord’ except by the Holy Spirit” (1 Cor 12:3) and “…because you are sons [of God] God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying ‘Abba, Father!’” (Gal 4:6; also Rom 8:15,16) I discovered that God is real, and what it means to know Him!   I also discovered the call and grace of the Holy Spirit to live in unity/fellowship with others.

Who is the Holy Spirit?  At the Last Supper, Jesus said: “Because I have said these things to you [about leaving them] sorrow has filled your hearts. Nevertheless, I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away the Counselor [Gk: parakletos] will not come to you, but if I go, I will send him to you” (Jn 16:6,7)

‘Paraclete’, literally “called to one’s side”, is translated “Counselor,” “Consoler” or “Advocate” (legal: defense attorney). Jesus promises: “I will ask the Father and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive because it neither sees him nor knows him; but you know him, for he dwells with you, and will be in you” (Jn 14:16,17). What a great promise!

John the Baptist says that Jesus will baptize with “the Holy Spirit (Mk 1:8) and fire (Mt 3:11; Lk 3:16)!” When does this happen? For Jesus’s first disciples: at Pentecost. For us: at baptism. We become “temples of the Holy Spirit” (1 Cor 3:16; 6:19) and receive “the Spirit of adoption as sons” (Rom 8:15). We can live, not “according to the flesh” [our unredeemed human nature] but “according to the Spirit” (see Rom 8:9-17). The Holy Spirit conforms us into the image of Christ—holiness! What a great Gift—God comes to dwell in us through the Holy Spirit, the “Sanctifier.” He is “the love of God… poured into our hearts” (Rom 5:5).  In sum: “Life in the Holy Spirit fulfills the vocation of man.” (CCC 1699)

St. Cyril of Jerusalem taught “…the Spirit comes with the tenderness of a true friend and protector to save, to heal, to teach, to counsel, to strengthen, to console.” The Catechism describes the Holy Spirit as “the interior Master of Life according to Christ, a gentle guest and friend who inspires, guides, corrects, and strengthens that life” (CCC 1697). The Acts of the Apostles provides countless examples of the Holy Spirit guiding the early Church. (Acts 6:2,3;8:29,39;10:47;13:2,4;15:28;16:6;20:22,23)

How does the Holy Spirit counsel and guide us? Especially through prayer! He is “the interior Master of Christian prayer” (CCC 2672). All Christian prayer is prayer “in the Spirit.” We pray for the Spirit (Lk 11:13; “Come, Holy Spirit”); we pray in the Spirit (Jn 4:23,24; Lk 10:21); we pray to the Holy Spirit (“with the Father and the Son he is worshipped and glorified” Nicene Creed).

We also pray to the Holy Spirit: to reveal our sins (Jn 16:8), to strengthen us against temptation; for the 7 gifts of the Holy Spirit (Is 11:1,2), for guidance and discernment.

The Holy Spirit calls us to act, but without listening to the ‘voice’, the gentle promptings, of the Holy Spirit in prayer, we won’t know what God wants. Eli taught young Samuel to say “Speak, Lord. Your servant is listening.” Do we only pray, “Listen, Lord. Your servant is speaking”?

When asked, “How does the pope pray?” Pope St. John Paul II responded: “You would have to ask the Holy Spirit! The pope prays as the Holy Spirit permits him to pray…The apostle [Paul] comes to the heart of the matter when he writes: “The Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes with inexpressible groanings” (cf. Rom 8:26). (John Paul II, Crossing the Threshold of Hope, pp,16,19.)

Every time we begin to pray to Jesus it is the Holy Spirit who draws us on the way of prayer by his prevenient grace (that precedes conversion). Since he teaches us to pray by recalling Christ, how could we not pray to the Spirit too? That is why the Church invites us to call upon the Holy Spirit every day, especially at the beginning and end of every important action. (CCC, 2670)

The Holy Spirit in Action!

An image of Mary and the apostles during the Descent of the Holy Spirit in the form of a dove and tongues of fire.  The apostles emerged from the Upper Room on fire to teach the Gospel to all nations. 

Names and Images of the Holy Spirit in the Bible are action words:  wind/breath, consuming fire, flowing water--even doves & clouds move!  The Holy Spirit is the ‘action’ person of God- the person of God who moves us.

Jesus’s Great Commission: “Go and make disciples of all nations…” (Mt 28:19). But after Jesus rose from the dead, before he ascended to the Father, he said “Wait.” Wait for what? “…wait for the promise of my Father, which ‘you heard from me, for John baptized with water but before many days you shall be baptized with the Holy Spirit” (Acts 1:4,5). Why wait? “…you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you & you shall be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samaria and to the end of the earth” (Acts1:8).   They were “clothed with power from on high” (Lk 24:49). When? Pentecost! Pentecost, the sending of the Holy Spirit, put Jesus’s commission into action!

For us, the sacrament of Confirmation “perpetuates the grace of Pentecost in the Church” (CCC 1258). “It gives us a special strength of the Holy Spirit to spread and defend the faith by word and action as true witnesses of Christ, to confess the name of Christ boldly, & never to be ashamed of the Cross” (1303) How is the Church doing? Are confirmed Catholics boldly proclaiming Christ? Are most Catholics “active Catholics”? (Some reflections: cf. Matthew Kelly’s Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic). What can we do? Pray for God to release, activate, renew the grace & power of the Holy Spirit given at confirmation!

Take a moment to think about what or how you are doing to be a witness to God and your faith, both in word and action. Our lives have a “ripple effect”!

(Don’t know what to say? Jesus says: “Ask the Holy Spirit!” Lk 12:11,12)

2) The Second Vatican Council and subsequent papal teaching give clear teaching about how lay people are called to ‘build up’ the Church and carry out the mission of the Church in the world- the ‘apostolate’ of the laity. How are we equipped to do this? The Holy Spirit sanctifies us “through the ministry [of the ordained] and the sacraments. However for the exercise of the apostolate he [the Holy Spirit] gives…special gifts [i.e. charisms] besides…From the reception of these charisms, even the most ordinary ones, there arises for each of the faithful the right and duty of exercising them in the Church and in the world for the good of men and the development of the Church, of exercising them in the freedom of the Holy Spirit who “blows where he wills (Jn 3:8)…” (D. on Apostolate of the Laity).

The Church’s teaching on the charisms, also found in the CCC 799-801,2003, 2004, is based on the teaching of St. Paul- each Christian (1 Cor 12:7) is given a particular gift (or gifts) to ‘build up’ the Body of Christ. They must be used for that purpose- in charity- to be effective, and beneficial for the one using them. The Church, being a spiritual as well as human reality, needs these gifts of the Holy Spirit to be strengthened and to carry out her mission. (See 1 Cor 12 & 13; Rom 12: 4-8; Eph 4:11,12). St. Paul lists 17 distinct gifts, but these are not all. Dr. Mary Healy divides them into gifts of revelation (discernment, words of wisdom and knowledge), speech (prophesy, prayer gifts, music) and power (extraordinary faith, healing, miracles). There are also service gifts: administration, giving aid or money, works of mercy and ‘everyday’ services.

Some of these are human talents ‘anointed’ by the Spirit; others are purely spiritual.  “As each has received a gift, employ it (use it!) for one another” (1 Pt 4:10). Jesus’s parable of the talents applies here. A gift of the Spirit, like any gift, unused or “unopened”, is useless. (“… a member [of the Church] who does not work at the growth of the body [of Christ] to the extent of his possibilities must be considered useless both to the Church and to himself.”)  D. on the Apostolate of the Laity, 2) No “couch potato” Catholics! Reflect for a few moments on what charisms you have- natural talents that the Holy Spirit can ‘anoint’, or spiritual gifts.  How have you used them in the service of others, of Christ, of the Church? Ask the Holy Spirit to show you the charisms you already have, and ask for whatever gifts He would give you, with His help to use those gifts as He wills.

3) Living in the grace and power of the Holy Spirit should be visible to others, and to ourselves, in the way we live. If we “abide” in Jesus Christ, like branches of a vine, we will bear “fruit” (Jn 15: 4, 5,8). St. Paul calls these the “fruit of the Holy Spirit”: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control” (Gal 5:22,23; CCC 736, 1832). These are visible signs of union with Jesus and the grace of the Holy Spirit dwelling in us.             

A final reflection: What do you see as the fruit of the Holy Spirit in your life, evident to others? What “fruit” of the Holy Spirit do you need, or need to grow in?  Ask the Holy Spirit, specifically, for this! Twice in Jesus’s teaching on ‘the vine and the branches’ he says that if you abide in me, ask the Father for whatever you need in my name and He will give it to you (Jn 15:7,16). “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you will find…how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him” (Lk 11: 9-13).

                                 Appendix

Essentials of Prayer 

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 2625-49)

Praise. “Praise the Lord, O my soul! I will praise the Lord as long as I live!” Ps 146:1

Thanksgiving. Jesus rejoiced in the Holy Spirit and said: “I thank you Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that you have hidden these things from the wise and understanding and revealed them to infants…”Luke 10:21

Blessing and Adoration. Adoration is homage of the spirit to the King of Glory (Ps 24: 9,10), respectful silence in the presence of…God.” (2628) (This will also include meditation, such as on God’s Word in Sacred Scripture.)

Petition and Intercession.  And I [Jesus] tell you: “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find…If you then… know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit (or “good things - Matthew 7:11) to those who ask him! (Luke 11: 9,13)

The Seven Gifts of the Holy Spirit

Wisdom - good judgment

Knowledge - learning and mastery

Understanding - intelligence and insight

Piety - personal holiness

Council - good advice

Fortitude - moral strength

Fear of the Lord - awe and reverence

The Fruits of the Holy Spirit 

Joy - spiritual happiness

Patience - enduring hardship

Self-Control - restraint and self-discipline

Peace - inner tranquility

Gentleness - soft-spoken nature

Kindness - compassionate behavior

Charity - divine love

Generosity - selfless giving

Chastity - purity and virtue

Modesty - humble demeanor

Faithfulness - loyalty and trust

Goodness - moral excellence

 

References

Schreck, Alan PhD. Your Life in the Holy Spirit, What Every Catholic Needs to Know and Experience.  Frederick, MD: Word Among Us Press. 1995.

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(301) Being a Godfather or Godmother: An Awesome Responsibility

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Antonina Frederyka, born a week after her cousin Sophia on March 5, is baptized at St. John the Evangelist Church in Front Royal, VA.  Holding Antonina are her godparents, Isaac and Julia Easton.  Looking on is their son Charlie. 

       Being asked to be a godmother or godfather is a great honor, which pales in comparison to the great sacrament of Baptism.  But what is really important is the responsibility that honor entails. 

   Being a godfather of six and having been involved with the Baptisms of my four adult children and now five grandchildren including three in 2024 alone, please let me share some thoughts and lessons I have learned about being a godparent.  I’m taking the risk of being a hypocrite because I myself have been negligent with my six godchildren.  Please don’t repeat my mistakes.  

 

      In the American culture the beautiful tradition of godparents is an honor, but only a formality as part of the Baptismal rite.  As the years pass into adolescence, the godson or goddaughter has little or no contact with the godparents.   Often, they move; friendships fade; and the family loses contact with them.  The child may not even know who his/her godparents are.  Too often the godparents are lax in their faith or fallen away Catholics, certainly not models of faithfulness to Church teaching.  That’s not the way the Church intends it to be.

 

       How should it be?  The very name, godmother or godfather essentially means other mother or other father……in other words, back-up parents, especially if the corresponding birth parents are lax or indifferent in forming the children or something happens to the family as a traumatic accident, serious illness, or family breakup.  Godparents are supposed to help or supplement the birth parents in spiritual formation and provide reinforcement of the Christian values that the birth parents are trying to inculcate in the children.

This photo shows part of Antonina’s extended family……her parents, grandparents, an uncle and an aunt……Daniel, big brother Anselmito, and Stephanie Spiotta.  Jaga is holding her granddaughter Nina, followed by her Aunt Naomi Faro, Grandfather Paul Sebastian, and Uncle Joseph.

However, contradicting the values of the family could present problems and the godparent should be sensitive to offending the birth parents.  Unless the godson or goddaughter is of age or outright sin is involved, parental authority takes precedence over the advice of godparents.  Especially in adolescence, the youth may be afraid to consult his/her parents on a personal problem or simply desires a second opinion, another viewpoint.

 

    To keep contact with the godson or goddaughter, parents should invite the godparents to family functions, certainly such events as the child’s birthday party, First Communion, Confirmation, graduation, wedding, and perhaps a class play, special sports events, etc.  Perhaps the godparent could take the child to a major league baseball game or hiking.  If distance is a problem, the godparent should at least make a brief phone call on a birthday or when the child achieves an important milestone.  The godparent should keep up on how the child is doing throughout his/her life. 

 

The point is to build up a relationship such that the child would feel free to consult a godparent on a personal problem.  This is easier if the godparent is a relative of the child or a close family friend, rather young yet mature to maintain a fruitful relationship for many years.  Perhaps even better is choosing a married couple to be the godparents who can reinforce or complement each other.

 

   Really, godparents should be accepted as members of the extended family.  In Latin America they often call godparents, “compadres” as part of the extended family.  At the very least godparents should try to pray daily for each of their godchildren by name, a brief petition for each one as part of their prayer life.  Each brief petition by name is an act of love that strengthens the bond between godparent and child.

 

      Thus being a godparent is not simply an honor, but an awesome responsibility.  May both parents and godparents take this responsibility seriously.  May we, who are godparents, do a better job at this most important task.  They may be able to help their godsons and goddaughters remain faithful to the Church.  Let’s follow the Catholic culture, not the secular culture.  

 

Pastors have a very important role in instructing both parents and godparents in the selection and fulfilling their duties.  Parents often need guidance on even naming the child.  Traditionally, the Church has asked parents to choose the name of a saint or close to it so that the child may have a patron saint, a model to follow for the rest of his/her life.  Patron saints are also great for the environment in the home, which is the domestic church as well as being helpful in parish renewal.  In Poland people celebrate a person’s “name day” (the feast day of his/her patron saint which is easier to remember) often even more than the birthday.  

 

      I realize that I have portrayed the ideals of being a godparent which are not always achievable.  Being what a godparent should be is not easy.  Career, family problems, home maintenance, hobbies, the boob tube, and just being so busy with both the essentials and non-essentials of life all get in the way.  Nevertheless, let’s strive for the ideal.  We may never achieve the ideal, but the ideal gives us the right direction.  Only a few steps in that direction is progress.