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Our parents gave the future deacon the
middle name of Victor because they could only think of victory after America
entered World War II upon the attack of Pearl Harbor three weeks before his
birth as the Great Generation greeted the new year of
1942. The son of Hungarian/Ruthenian immigrants
and grandson of Fr. Vladimir Mihalich, a Byzantine Catholic priest, he had achieved the American dream
and generously gave back to the Church and the community of his time, talent, and
treasure.
Still in his prime as a
successful investment banker in Chicago, he took early retirement to become a
man of the cloth and was ordained a deacon in 2003 after a few years (part-time)
of study. Kathleen gave him the required
espousal permission and continued to faithfully be at his side during their 57
years of marriage. John served as a
deacon at his home parish of St. Isaac Jogues Church in Hinsdale, Illinois and for
the winter at St. John the Evangelist Church in Naples, Florida where he had a
condo.
Deacon John took his new vocation seriously. He normally got up at dawn or before to say the scriptural prayers of the Lectio Divina (i.e. the breviary - read, pray, meditate, contemplate) as customary for religious and Catholic clergy and recommended for laity too.
Deacon John and his family spent
several weekends in Rio Grande. Fr.
William Myers, of happy memory, was so gracious as to allow him to participate
as a server at Mass and give the homily.
We all were thrilled, our mother especially, to hear him give these
excellent homilies.
John served his extended family as well. When our cousin Eddie died, he was at the
funeral in New Jersey; when cousin Emil died he traveled to Rochester, MN to
give the family emotional and spiritual support. He married our daughter Naomi to Dr. John
Faro. He would have baptized their baby if
he were able as he did with his 11 grandchildren.
Deacon John conducts the wedding ceremony between his niece Naomi and
Dr. John Faro.
Around
2015 Deacon John’s rheumatoid arthritis was in remission and he continued
serving in both parishes. In the last
two or three years, however, he became incapacitated with one ailment after
another in an out of his local hospital.
While fighting a blood disease that required 25 transfusions, his
doctors discovered colon cancer and that meant surgery.
Since the treatment with chemo destroyed his
immune system, a whole series of
diseases followed……laryngitis, a severe ear infection that made communication
by phone impossible, a bad cough, and more.
Overcoming one sickness, he would be inflicted with another while
Kathleen was fighting an ailment of her own.
Deacon John valiantly fought every ailment with a saintly attitude of
faith and courage. Michelle rallied to
her father’s side with her mother and John Victor II handled the tax returns.

Deacon
John and his lovely wife, Kathleen faithfully at
his side in Rome
During one of our phone conversations, his nurse came in and
asked: “How are you doing? The deacon’s answer was “Blessed”. He was grateful to the Lord despite it all
and did not complain. When I said, “John,
it’s sort of not fair. You have all this
suffering and your older brother (me) just has a few old age aches and
pains.” His answer astonished me. “WHY NOT ME?”
Our Dad would often repeat, “Every man has his cross to bear” on his journey
to eternity and Deacon John had a heavy one.
Life is only a preparation for eternity.
Deacon John believed in Redemptive Suffering.
That is, every one of us has the opportunity to make his cross a prayer for
others. “I offer up my sufferings to God
in reparation for my sins and for my children”. One of Mary’s most important
messages at Fatima was to pray for and offer up one’s crosses for the
conversion of sinners. In that way the
mystery of suffering becomes meaningful and productive. Otherwise, it is misery. He repeated more than once: “Thy will be
done”. As cousin Fr. Thomas Loya noted,
“he gave his best homilies from his sick bed”.

Deacon John is at the
lectern and Cardinal Francis George is on the right. The venue is Cardinal George's pastoral church
in Rome, the Basilica of St. Bartholomew the Apostle.
He went on a pilgrimage with the great Cardinal Francis George
and served at one of his Masses. Among
those who visited him in the hospital were Bishop Conlin, Bishop Hicks, and of
course cousin Fr. Loya and pastor Fr. Burke Masters who is also the Catholic
Chaplain for the Chicago Cubs.
His funeral Mass at St. Isaac Jogues
Church was full. A large group of fellow deacons and Knights of the Holy Sepulcher attended in full regalia. Deacon John was nominated for this
prestigious group by Bishop Conlin in appreciation of his work in straightening
out the Diocese of Joliet-IL pension plan for the priests and employees.
Relatives came from all over the country……his
nephew John Paul's family of four plus one on the way flew in from Irving-TX, his niece Stephanie’s family of four
drove from four Front Royal-Virginia, his niece Naomi’s family of three flew in from Durham-NC,
and his nephew Joseph flew in from Atlanta-Georgia. Deacon Greg and his wife came from Cleveland, Tim Loya from Jefferson-OH, and Michael Foley from New York City. Fr.
Thomas Loya, our cousin, concelebrated, was the homilist, led prayers at
the wake, and officiated the burial at Queen of Heaven Cemetery. Deacon Greg assisted and read the Gospel. His daughter Michelle and son Mark gave eulogies.
Lt. John Sebastian Company Commander in Orleans, France Taps were played at the burial site by a group of Army veterans
in a touching ceremony that left me (also a veteran) in tears as I
saluted. The flag, which draped the
coffin crafted by Trappist Monks, was presented to his wife, Kathleen. Deacon John certainly deserved the
honor. Although only a lieutenant, he
was made commander of an important engineering company in Orleans, France in
the midst of the Cold War in the 1960s.
Later in the reserves he was promoted to the rank of Captain.
Let me close with a bit of humor. In the Boy Scouts we sang a stupid lyric: “If
I get to heaven before you do, I’ll drill a hole and spit on you”. Well, Deacon John certainly is getting to
heaven before me, his older brother. And
I know one thing. He’s sending down a
shower of prayers for his loved ones.
We can confide that John has received the ultimate prize......."Well done good and faithful servant" (Matthew 25:23). May we all do as well.
May we all imitate his faithfulness to God and the teachings of His Church, especially
his dear ones……John & Nicole, Christian, Justin, and soon to be Dr. Allison Peeney PhD; John Victor II & Ann, Kate, Mary, and John Victor Sebastian
III; Shawn & Michelle, Isabella, Emilia, and Maria Gleason; Mark &
Lauren, Mark II, and Valentino Sebastian.
Nothing would make him happier for you now and later to embrace you in
Heaven. Don't forget; you have a cheerleader up there cheering you on.
Your wife, two daughters, two sons, 11 grandchildren,
numerous relatives and friends will miss you very much, John. We can take solace in the thought that we
will all be together again in Heaven for a joyful reunion. Let’s make sure that we all get there by
being always faithful to Jesus Christ and the teachings of His Church. Good-bye my brother until we meet again. We love you.
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Deacon John Victor
Sebastian, a devoted family man, faithful servant of God, and cherished member
of his community, passed away peacefully at the age of 83 on May 31, 2025. Son
of the late Drs. John and Stephanie Sebastian. Preceded in death by his brother Fred. Survived by his wife of 57 years, Kathleen
Marks Sebastian; daughter, Nicole Peeney (John); son, John II (Ann); daughter,
Michelle (Shawn); son, Mark (Lauren); grandchildren, Allison, Christian, and
Justin Peeney, Kathleen, Mary, and John Sebastian III, Isabella, Emilia, and
Maria Gleason, Mark II and Valentino Sebastian; brother, Paul (Jaga);
brother-in-law James (Patricia); sister-in-law, Georgianna; many nieces and
nephews and countless friends.
Before dedicating his life fully
to the church and charitable causes, John served his country as a Captain in
the U.S. Army. He served as a liaison in Paris and briefly in Vietnam, and then
as a member of the Army Reserves after returning to the United States.
He then continued to
have a successful career as an investment banker in Chicago for 30 years. John
proudly co-hosted a weekly finance show, "Ask an Expert" on Channel
26 in Chicago. He graduated from Duquesne High School in 1959 near Pittsburgh,
was proud to have earned his Bachelor's degree from Penn State University in
1963, making him a lifelong fan of the Nittany Lions, and later earned his MBA
from the University of Chicago.
In 1963 after graduating from Penn
State he worked for Inland Steel in East Chicago, Indiana. While there, he met
the love of his life Kathleen at her father's ophthalmologist office where she
worked. They were married in 1967 and moved to Illinois in 1973 where he and
Kathleen raised their four children. He was ordained as a permanent Deacon in
2003.
For over 20 years, John served
with unwavering commitment as Deacon at St. Isaac Jogues Church in Hinsdale, IL where he was a parishioner for
over 50 years. He was also blessed to serve as a deacon at St John the
Evangelist in Naples, Florida. In both communities, he was a beloved and
integral part of the church, offering guidance, support, and comfort to many
individuals. He also made countless gifts of his time, talent and treasure
throughout his lifetime and was proud to be a Knight of the Holy Sepulchre.
Deacon John Sebastian's legacy of
love, faith, and generosity will forever be etched in the hearts of his family
and all who had the privilege of knowing him.
Visitation Thursday, June 5th, 3:00 PM to 8:00 PM at Sullivan Funeral Home, 60
South Grant Street, Hinsdale, IL. Funeral Friday, June 6th, family and
friends to meet for a 10:00 AM Funeral Mass at St. Isaac Jogues, 306 West
Fourth Street, Hinsdale, IL. Interment Queen of Heaven Cemetery. Mass will be live-streamed Here. Deacon John's Register Book can be signed
Electronically Here. In lieu of flowers,
the family requests that memorial contributions be made to Catholic Charities
Diocese of Joliet.
For Information 630-323-0275 or
www.sullivanfuneralhomehinsdale.com
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